What's Stopping You
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What Keeps You From Pursuing Your Dreams?
What Keeps You From Pursuing Your Dreams?
posted by Randy | 10:45 AM
What the Heck Blog for 2006 Interns
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a lot of what holds me back is making sure I've got the right dream. I don't want to live for myself, but on the contrary it is I who will be living out the dream.
People say "do something that will make you happy for the rest of your life," but my goal in life is not happiness. I don't want to be selfish in my dreaming.
I completly understand what you're saying Art! This may seem like I'm going for "happiness" but, I honestly feel a bit of pressure from a couple of members in my family. My family is incredibly supportavie in many regards, yet if my action(s) or even the thought of a potential new idea seems to be outside of the "box", well... then heaven forbid! I'm not an "in the box" type of person!! I'd say that I have felt a little bit of apprehension towards beginning new things b/c of this.
And of course,there's always the good 'ole financial wall that always seems to stand in the way!
To answer the question of what keeps me from pursuing my dream as much as I don't want to admit it is fear of failure. And because of this I hesitate when a new task comes my way or I see an opportunity to help in reaching my dream.
Margaret,
Thank you for taking the time to share with us.
I find that my biggest road block is myself. Meaning my own insecurities and the fact I am severely lacking in self discipline are the things that hold me back. Also I'm just not sure if it's god that is directing me to do this and I really don't want to miss what he has planned for me. So in the process of waiting have I missed it?
What holds me back is discipline and sacrifice. I have a decent idea of what I'm passionate about, but what's tough for me is taking the steps to allow myself to flourish in the dreams God has given me. I struggle to confront the unhealthy habits and lifestyles that keep me stranded between mediocre and average.
kind of like rachael, i think my biggest hinderances come from my own insecurities. I constantly find myself thinking that I'll never be good enough to actually reach my dreams, and if I do get there by some act of God that I will mess it all up. And, as elizabeth said, finances always seem to get in the way as well.
Lack of a dream. I think I've spent so much time trying to figure out what I want to do that I've never developed a dream. I have goals like graduating, growing, and finding a job when I get out of school, but I can't really say that I have a dream. Also, I'm still learning myself. This book has helped me to evaluate what I love to do and what really makes my heart sing. I think I'm on the path to discovering what I'm meant to do. It may not be anything super significant, but it's something that I was created for.
I can definitely relate to all of the people who fear failure. As time passes I learn to build confidence in my abilities, but that initial self-doubt is always there. I just have to overcome it.
"I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength."
-Phillipians 4:13
amy: we were fearfully and wonderfully made, not apprehensiously and well-made. Whatever you were created to do is significant. the potential you have when following Christ moves mountains; your life will make an impact.
I'm along the same lines with you one the lack of a dream. I've got goals and blurry visions of what is possible for the future (really anything is possible), but I'm not sure exactly where it's going. A friend once told me that God probably wasn't showing her the whole picture because if He did, she would be overwhelmed and never accomplish the big plans He has for her.
I think the biggest thing for me is I'm not exactly sure what my dream is. There are so many pieces of the puzzle missing for me. Right now I think I'm pursuing my dreams but it feels like I'm missing something, something pretty big. That could just be fear or it could be God trying to let me know I'm not dreaming big enough. I don't know. I'm not sure how to dream bigger.
Okay, this is just a little theory of life, so take it with a grain of salt. But my theory is this:
The sense of faking it never goes away.
What I mean is that for so many of my life experiences including my first job, my first internship, my first move, my first pet, I have felt like I was faking it or making it up as I went along, simply because I had no idea what I was doing.
Every new experience from parenting to retirement has an element that tells us we're expected to know how to do everything, when in reality, we don't know how to do anything (or at least very little with it comes to the task at hand).
So there will always be self-doubt. There will always be a level of insecurity. There will always be fear of failure.
Somehow I imagine the disciples experienced all those things..over and over and over again. From dropping the nets, to sharp rebukes, to the cross, to the upper room and beyond. Self-doubt. Insecurity. Fear of failure.
Yet somehone I think Jesus calls us beyond that. Like Simon Peter in the boat, we are invited to get out and walk... and even when we sink, we still get that experience of growing in faith because of that initial step.
What do you think?
Margaret is exactly right. At each point in our life whether it is being a parent, new job, we are expected to know everything and we are qualified. There will always be self-doubt because that is our humaness, but we are called to speak into the unknown and walk forward in faith.
You will never have all the answers or know how all of the details will work out. That is okay. This is an adventure we are on.
Art, I don't think you are being selfish by dreaming. Dream away those thoughts are coming to you for a reason. Just try to discern them against the Word of God because the devil will give you thoughts too. What are you passionate about? What brings you alive? What makes you feel like you are living? Go do it! Check it against the Bible first, then go for it.
If you dream about something that is not congruent with the Bible, then talk to God about where you may need some healing in order to get past that desire. He will enlighten you and reveal to you what is Holy and Righteous.
Go for it!
Tiffie: I think it's good to be scared of messing things up. That keeps your relience on God and not on yourself. If you could get there with no problems and do everything perfect, where would the adventure be. You will mess up, that's not the important part. The important part is that you learn from it, you become better, and you keep going. I know God has incredible plans for you and Michael and if they're ever going to be achieved God's got to be in it more than you are.
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